Parenting

How to Let Your Husband be a Father

As a first-time parent, I was just trying to do everything right. Keeping my child fed, cleaned, and loved were top of mind 24/7. My marriage was not. When my husband of 14 years asked for a divorce a year into parenthood, I was taken by surprise. We were never pegged as the couple who…

Love vs. Valentine’s Day

When I make heart-shaped magnets for distribution at my daughter’s Valentine-themed pre-school class this week,  I do so under duress. When she gets excited about decorating “vantine day” cards, I smile reluctantly. When she asks if she’ll get to cut a cake (because all momentous occasions require the customary round dessert with candles atop), I…

One Day…

One day I will have the time to paint, watch movies, garden, walk, swim, do yoga. One day I will have the time to sit in the sun, lounge, eat dessert before dinner, nap at 4 p.m. One day I will spend four hours in the kitchen crafting a delicious five-course meal. One day I…

Tips for parenting and marriage

I’m not a parenting expert but I’ve met many a “tips guru” in the last 22 months of being a mom, enough to know my ears are best covered when they’re around. The advice I’ve received has ranged from ridiculous to borderline crazy. It’s not that people are being particularly asinine. It’s just that none…

When I was a child

Some days, as I am spraying a stain remover on my paint-ridden clothes or trying to get the sand out of my hair, I hear my mom’s words coming out of my mouth. “You have to be more careful!” I tell my wide-eyed almost-two-year-old. “Look at what you did!” I check myself almost instantly. My…